Pro-tips For Successful Talking Stage 2— For Men
Welcome back, dearest reader, to the second installation of ‘Protips with The Genius.’
This article started as a list of quick protips but quickly spiralled into a masterclass. If you have yet to read and digested the first set of tips, click here to catch up.
Without further ado, let's get into it.
I promised 3 more, but I added one more — the killer punch.
RULE 5: DESPERATION WILL KILL YOU
There are two things women can smell: Fear & Desperation.
Because these two often work together, it means you are just giving the most horrid scent, hence, the disgust on her face.
No matter how smitten you are by her, always remember that she’s not the only one — or the last. It has been psychologically proven that a man is more likely to embarrass himself around a woman equally proportional to how much he likes her.
Now women are more likely to be turned off by that behaviour. It feels like the game is rigged, right?
My point is: Never deify a woman (especially not in the talking stage). The worst that could happen is that she turns you down. She could also pour a glass of Chapman over your head in front of the whole lounge, but relax… that won’t happen.
Just know that whatever you start by begging, you will sustain by begging.
PROTIPS FOR KILLING DESPERATION
If you find that you are a ‘Desperado’ type of lover, then take a few months off love and fix that. Simply chase being turned down.
So, whenever you enter a room, locate the most beautiful — possibly intimidating, ‘out of your league’ girl and approach her. Even better if she’s in the midst of her friends.
This will:
- Get you so used to getting turned down that you can take it like a champ
- Help you know how to open and keep up a conversation, even when your senses are screaming, “Run!”
- Boost your confidence to approach (cos that’s sometimes the hardest part).
6. LET HER KNOW SHE HAS OPTIONS
The only way to know someone is to have conversations. The best conversations happen when you ask questions and listen.
In the talking stage, when you ask questions and notice that she is reluctant to answer, give her the excuse she needs to avoid answering your question.
While this sounds counterintuitive, it shows reciprocity.
It lets her feel that when she’s in a ditch or tight corner, you will reach out to help her (even when you put her there). The hallmark of a great leader or man is not aggression but reciprocity.
Sometimes, all she needs is time to build trust, and giving her a way out helps build trust faster.
7. LEARN TO FLIRT
Yes, flirting is an important component of the talking stage.
No, it doesn’t have to be bad or sexual.
Flirting is simply intellectual sparring — like a more pleasurable game of fencing.
To be exciting (as in Rule 1), you need a good dose of flirting.
You have to define what a good dose is by trial and error. Watch her reaction as feedback to either advance, hold the fort, or retreat.
Flirting doesn’t have to be convoluted or vague. It can be really simple. Remember, men are captured by what they see, and women are captured by what they hear. So choose your words wisely.
Flirting Pro-tip: Whatever she says, find the most absurd, outlandish reply and deliver it with humour.
Humor is the elixir that makes even the most risqué flirting swallowable. It is the grease that lubricates the engines of a woman’s desires. So, you better master it.
8. NONE OF THESE MATTER IF SHE DOESN’T LIKE YOU
The funny (and confusing) thing about ladies is this— the line between an insult and a compliment depends on whether she likes you.
That is all you need to know — but let me expatiate.
Knowing all these tips won't matter if she doesn't like you (or at least feels attracted), and anything you do will end up being a disturbance rather than a conversation.
Am I saying there is nothing you can do to turn the tides? Of course not. You must, however, accept that you’re fighting an uphill battle that you may never win.
I know that is not how you expected a list of protips to end, but when travelling the uncertain waters of a woman’s desire, expect the unexpected.
There you have it, folks. If you have any questions, objections, or more tips, feel free to drop a comment. I’d be glad to converse.
Till next time
Stay alive.
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