Protips For Successful Talking Stage — For Men
Part 1
Without a doubt, women are the most powerful creatures ever made. That sounds like a political statement, but it is not. They are often described as the ‘Force of Nature because they are the most important determinant of human evolution.
For one, they hold the key to one of man’s primal desires (sex) and his evolutionary desire to replicate himself. Couple that with the biological implications these choices have on them, and you have a reality where women are evolved to choose the best candidate for their time, attention, and affection.
For better or worse, men have to play in this game of elimination where the woman is judge, jury, and executioner. Chances are that you have been playing in this from childhood.
If love and romance are the prize, then the talking stage counts as auditions. The question becomes, how do you better your chances of progressing past the talking stage to the big leagues?
I have 7 Pro-tips for a successful talking stage. We will treat four today and three next time.
1. EVERY WOMAN HAS A LIST
When a woman complains about how she is done with yet another talking stage, it is hard for many guys to picture it.
Imagine how many contestants a Judge in a reality show must see daily. If you know anything about audition tapes, you know that they are one of the funniest, ‘cringiest,’ and most frustrating parts of any talent show.
Yes. Now you get the picture.
For every woman that gives you her name, responds to your text, or shows up to a date, there are at least ten other guys she’s ignoring. That shouldn’t make you feel special. It means there is a glad replacement when you stop being exciting.
I often tell guys, your job in the talking stage is to be the most exciting, unpredictable, and pleasant guy in her DMs. Not just for a day or two, but until all the other names fade away (pun intended).
Is it easy? No
But don’t hate the player. That’s the game.
Now continue reading to see how to win the game.
2. THE UNFORGIVABLE SIN
The biggest mistake many guys make when they launch a brand-new talking stage is to say: “Tell me about yourself.” I can literally hear ladies reading this roll their eyes and groan at the sight of that question.
To many women, that is a big, glowing, neon-red turnoff.
I don’t know why, though.
Maybe it triggers unresolved PTSD from English essay writing or a failed job interview. Maybe women just don’t like to explain themselves, or maybe it’s the fact that there are a million other ways to get a woman to open up.
I believe women enjoy answering questions (when there’s an attraction) but in an exciting way. Asking if they have eaten is not a better alternative unless you plan to order food for them. But I digress.
The bottom line is — delete that question from your ‘talking stage’ vocabulary forever if you want to get ahead.
3. DON’T JUST BE A CONTESTANT, BE A JUROR
As I stated earlier, the talking stage is an elimination game where everything you do (or don’t do), say (or don’t say) can be used for (or against) you. That women are jurors by default does not mean it has to remain that way.
The talking stage allows you to assess if she’s a good fit for you. It is your opportunity to poke around (no pun intended) and check her boundaries, wit, emotional configuration, dreams, and aspirations.
All of this informs if you proceed or abort the mission. So, don’t be bothered by a failed talking stage. That’s what they are for.
4. DON’T BE AFRAID TO OFFEND — EVEN BETTER, KNOW HOW TO WIGGLE YOUR WAY OUT
In poking around and exploring your partner’s boundaries, you are bound to step out of line, which is fine. Many guys play it so safe that they never poke enough and lose both ways.
No woman wants a pushover. So, if all you do is accede to all her wants and whims, you’re simply losing points, not gaining. This means that if you have something to say, say it. If you have an objection, object.
Let it out as long as it is not insulting or condescending, and you will both be fine. Sometimes, women form anger just to watch your reaction. Remember, it’s all a big test.
Even when caught in a corner, there is always a way out. Everyone gets trapped; only the experts know how to escape.
People say, “respond with a compliment,” but that doesn’t always work for African women, so choose wisely.
Next week, we will discuss the 3 remaining tips. They have to do with desperation, extending a helping hand, and how to flirt.
You don't want to miss that.
Till next week — stay alive.
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